Why You Actually Need Wants
You want many things out of life, right? You’ve got goals, expectations, and desires in possibly a million directions… woah! Maybe not a million… but the point is there is much want, want, wanting and possibly not enough needing nor actioning (ie. calls to action).
In South Africa*, a reliable mode of transport is considered a need (having recently gone through half a week without a vehicle due to a minor incident, this is way up there), as is running water, food, sleep, friendships, electricity, hobbies, experiences, 6-packs, fresh fashion… the list continues. Who has conjured up these “needs”?
Aaaand our fundamental human needs include? Let’s consider needs as EVERYTHING you need to survive and function effectively. Nope, that doesn’t include your mobile. Sorry. Fundamentals include:
- Nutrients in the form of food, water, sunlight, and air
- Physiological needs including but not limited to sleep and movement without boundaries (even if hindered by amputation or injury)
- Security in the form of shelter, resources and socio-cultural interactions
Whether the current state of these are bad or good is subjective but we thrive on these. We don’t function well without these so that’s why they are considered needs.
You need your needs because you will physically and/or psychologically suffer without enough of them. Below are some blogs on deprivation experiments:
- Insufficient rest (eg. Sleep Deprivation Experiments)
- Physical Inactivity (eg. Extended Bed Rest)
- Nutritional (eg. The Double-Burden of Malnutrition)
What do you want? We’ve determined two categories of wants:
- Surface-Level: what you’re surrounded by when at home, the clothes you wear, books you read, and devices; the car, book, or doggie in the window
- Soul-Level: confidence, respect, friendship, self-development whether physical, psychological or spiritual; meaningful interactions with those around you
Consider the above. We need to survive and we want to thrive. We can’t thrive without being able to survive. Maybe, we actually need to want to thrive in order to survive? What do you think?
Devaluation, disappointment and demotivation are keys to our detriment. It’s difficult to remain motivated when we feel undervalued or expectations aren’t met. Whether we set the standard for ourselves or others. And then miss.
Desires. These wonderful things keep the fire inside kindled. It’s not about eternal optimism because when your body is physically, mentally and emotionally drained, optimism is the furthest thing from your immediate flying-F response. Losing a “good” friend, having a vehicle “written-off”, 50-60 hours of work per week, and 10-15 hours of hobbies per week in four weeks can be quite a drain. Our desire to aspire helps us to remain motivated. During such challenge we learn to transform into whatever we need to so we can perform.
Whether you like it or not, we need our wants to stay on track. It is a key form of motivation. Share some of your goals heading towards the next season AND how you intend to stick with them. If you don’t share with us, share with friends, family or mentors. Ask them to keep you accountable. Feel free to mail us if you need help with an action plan.